After a while I managed to demand already something from them that first it seemed impossible.
They really trusted in me as to the musician, and their trust granted to me the right of management.
Besides I will not remember any case when any of them would transfer to me the feelings to mother.
The musical instrument acted as object of transfer.
From time to time I consciously did not participate in playing music that very guarded child, being in a safe environment, felt independence, found an initiative and found means spontaneously to express itself through music.. . . . . . Читать полностью -->
Want that the child regularly cleaned up?
Then from the earliest age do this work together with it.
Of course, it is necessary to maintain purity, but, maybe, it is worth lowering a level a little?
For example, allocate to the son a certain site, concrete business, choose day or hour for reduction of the room per an order.
At the beginning it is possible to be glad at least to that the disorder does not extend from the nursery on other space of the house.
In order that the child could be tidied up itself in the room, provide him necessary conditions.. . . . . . Читать полностью -->
And the burnedthrough Bengal lights near the adult smell as credibility.
In a trunk somehow took place Reserve of the children's word Because the main trouble of the person growing, reading, thinking which proves soon and leaves indelible consequences are the experiments on fast reading, an early ovzrosleniye which are carried out by part of modern adults.
And if to it to add their persistent aspiration to the value of result and an inattention to disinterestedness of process, we receive either the person who is silent, or repeating, or using sadly simplified stock of ordinarylooking words.. . . . . . Читать полностью -->
The girl changed so that could follow rate of music, and then and to join band instead of sitting in a corner of the room and to be shaken.
Meeting me in the mornings, some of not communicative children which already knew that such contact through hands, involuntarily was pulled forward by palms.
Gradually the child is involved in activity, joint with the therapist.
Now at the child the association the therapist pleasure and freedom which he learned is born.
He starts trusting the therapist in spite of the fact that can continue to go obstinate, to try to manipulate the therapist, to be angry or revolt.. . . . . . Читать полностью -->
I was lucky to hear the story of Elena Shmelyova who at the time of voloshinsky Koktebel was the little girl.
Voloshin the first internally predicted her deafness, and, without having afflicted it, gradually began to study with it special language of an internal slyshaniye.
Thanks to it the girl developed as the ballerina, but received as a present not only skill, but also force of internal vision by other person of the values.
Once Voloshin sent it with the sister on a britska to a holiday to Feodosiya.
The britska came back at daybreak, and from descent top to Koktebel, in warm beams of a dawn, on the main deck bridge of the rooftop of Voloshin, the girl saw the big linen figure with emotion dissecting this a small surface in a dawn ambiguity … This feeling of expectation you, the little girl, this value defined its futures the same as surprising secrets of its future business given the great friend.. . . . . . Читать полностью -->
And meanwhile there are situations when the child one does not consult, but is silent or rushes in a fight, as a result to him and gets according to the full program.
Striking example school more precisely, okoloshkolny disorders.
Sometimes, that the road to school and a way home turns for the young pupil into continuous hassle.
The frolicing hooligan will frighten that, the dashing company will catch and sandwich will select.
And happens worse: will demand to get and bring, for example, money, but not that.. . . . . . Читать полностью -->
Whether easily he adapts to changes or any novelty, new experience cause in it alarm and irritation?
As what he considers himself: courageous or shy, dexterous or clumsy, sociable or timid?
Begin with modeling of Annie on a sample of your child.
Give it its personal qualities and traits of character, she has to endure the same concerns and alarms, the same fears, fears and hopes, as your child.
This similarity will help it to identify itself with Annie and that is especially important, to feel that if Annie succeeds in something, something achieves, and he will be able to achieve the same.. . . . . . Читать полностью -->